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Posted on: July 31, 2009

The other week, I was visiting my friend Karen who just had her second son a few weeks after the Poptart was born. She reassured me that, “Even if you feel like you’re faking it, you doing okay. And when you start giving other people parenting advice then you’ve arrived.”

So today I hijacked Amy’s comment section and gave her some advice (she ASKED). And I think that Karen’s right – I’m getting better with this, and far more comfortable. Something turned around the 8 week mark. Breastfeeding got way easier. I got used to the (one time per night only) 4am wakeup call to feed her.

And she started turning into a person. She’ll see me coming to get her and break into this huge, gummy grin and wave her arms and legs around in excitement that Mom! Is! Going! To! Pick! Her! UP!!!!! and squeak and turn me into a puddle of goo.

And that is the best feeling in the world.

And because its been so long since I updated, and I know you’re all dying to know the minutiae of my life, you get a numbered list!

 Questions I have been asked post-partum (note: the Poptart will be 10 weeks on Sunday):

1. So when are you going to have another one?

Dude, let me get this one figured out at least somewhat. Also, remember that we are both only children and have no idea of sibling dynamics. We would be lost. In fact, when Darren said we should have two (this is years back), the first words out of my mouth were, “Are you crazy?”

This has not stopped anyone from asking, mind you.

2. So are you getting any sleep?

And this why we have no friends. I know I said awhile back that I don’t sleep more than 2 hours in a row but that’s done. I sleep between 6-8 hours each night. The Poptart sleeps between 6-8 hours each night. Sometimes, we’ll take Darren to the train in the morning and she’ll go back to sleep when we get back and I get a couple more hours.

3a. So how do you get her to sleep?

We cheat. Breastmilk digests quite easily; formula lasts longer in babies’ stomachs. During the day, she gets breastmilk; in the evening, she gets breastmilk, plus formula (however much she’ll take). I nurse her to sleep. The breast is always offered first and she switches easily between bottle, breast and pacifier.

3b. You’re using formula?

Yes, we are. Because I have a bit of a low-grade anxiety thing that’s exacerbated by lack of sleep. I need sleep in order to be a good mother and not a weeping, panicky mess. If she can do the period between midnight and 4am, I can do the rest.

There is a reason sleep deprivation is used as a torture device.

Plus, if I ever have to go away from her for a couple of days (or god forbid something happens to me), she’ll need to take formula (I have a stash of frozen milk, but not that much). Her system needs to know how to handle it.

4. So why haven’t your parents come to meet her yet?

Don’t get me wrong, they want to and they’re coming down today to visit for a few days.

Back when I found out I was pregnant, my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer. His 7 weeks of treatment ended last Friday.

So the Poptart is 9.5 weeks old; he had 7 weeks of treatment – you do the math and figure out the dates. Also, she was born on his birthday – so that’s a pretty good birthday present.

Other random stuff:

  • the Poptart weathered her 2 month vaccinations like a champ. Her photos at sears, not so much.
  • with respect to question 1, above, yes, we are preventing any ooopses from happening. Since I am breastfeeding, the only pill I can take is the minipill, whcih is REALLY, REALLY unforgiving. You have a 3 hour window each day where you can take it otherwise you might get pregnant. Forget that noise – I was bad about taking pills every day anyways. So I got the Mirena IUD. A bit of cramping when he put it in, some spotting and cramping for a day (nothing a couple of advil couldn’t take care of) and that’s it. Done. Don’t have to worry about it for 5 years. By then we should have made a decision on whether we want another one.
  • I got the IUD on the same day as she got her vaccinations. You can imagine how fun that evening was. She was clingy, I was crampy, etc.
  • I broke up with my diaper service. Its cheaper to order my own and just wash them. With one income cut in less than half* we just don’t need to spend the $66 every 2 weeks it was costing. And the diapers I ordered were on sale. They come from Victoria so they’re pretty local too.

And since the house is a mess, the baby is sleeping, and my parents are coming, I need to eat breakfast and clean.

*more on this later when I participate in Amber’s Carnival of Maternity Leave.


Posted on: July 13, 2009

In some cultures, 8 is considered to be a lucky number.

8 seconds (approximately):


 8 days (about):

 8 days








8 weeks:

8 weeks

 And damn, are we ever lucky.

(Backdated because I forgot to hit “publish”)

Awhile back, I was offered the opportunity to try out a grocery delivery service. Before committing to it, I emailed with their customer representative, Lesley, who was kind enough to arrange a credit to my brand new account at Spud in exchange for a review on the service (which you are reading now, and yes, that means I have been compensated in some manner for this post).

So, I tried it out and it was a good thing I was a week behind on that because the day of the delivery was also the day the garage door opener failed and I strained a muscle in my back.

So now, nearly two weeks later, I have gotten around to this review. My apologies to the people at Spud for the delay.

So now that that stuff’s out of the way, lets see how it stacked up.

The idea behind Spud! is that you make your order online and then, depending on where you live, there’s a day out of the week where they deliver in your area. For me it was Thursday. Orders have to be placed by 9am 2 days in advance, or at least it was for me.

The pros:

  • convenience: groceries delivered right to your door? Hell, yes. Even if you’re not home, they’ll leave them outside your door (with dry ice for the stuff that needs to stay cold). Plus grocery shopping with an infant is difficult so anything that makes my life easier is a plus.
  • quality of produce: excellent. They carry many of the products that I use anyways so its nice being able to get this delivered right to my door. The peppers I ordered were perfect.
  • Local products: many of the products they sell are local or local-ish except for the more exotic stuff like cantaloupes, pineapples which are hard to grow in Canada. The best part is they provide full information on all suppliers including how far away they are from their Vancouver warehouse. If you’re concerned about your carbon footprint on this, then you choose suppliers that are closer rather than further away.
  • Website ease of use: easy to use interface with appropriate “add to cart” features and ability to change amounts. Each product is essentially one-click shopping. They then provide you with a full breakdown including deposits on containers (which you get back as credit on your next delivery) prior to completing your sale. When I put my order in, the website did something weird, though: the screen greyed out and froze (but the order went through). I’m not sure if that’s their end, or my end (because I do use Internet Exploder 8 after all). Punch in a credit card when you set up your account and you’re done.
  • did I mention the convenience? Most people who know me know that I will generally pay for convenience.
  • Customer service: excellent. The person who delivered actually rang the bell and WAITED until I answered to make sure I didn’t have any questions. A few days later, I got a call from them asking how things were. Excellent customer service (I expect you don’t get the call after every delivery, but its great for new customers).

The cons:

  • I think I am one of those people who needs to see and feel the produce before I buy it. I kind of like to know exactly what I’m getting.
  • They don’t have everything I use: the idea is that you can order this stuff and save on the gas, travel, time, etc. However there are those one or two things that I need that they don’t have, so I end up going to the store anyways. And when you’re going to the store anyways you eliminate the savings, so you might as well feel the produce and know what you’re getting
  • Cost: its expensive. Particularly the produce. Now I know they have to work in salaries, fuel, wear and tear on vehicles, etc. And you’re paying for more service than what you get at the store. However I don’t know if its a combination of living out in the boonies where I have local access to fresh veggies and fruit, and being on a reduced income because of maternity leave, or if they really are expensive, but right now, its too much for our budget.
  • You need to be organized and plan your meals in advance so that you order the appropriate food – right now, this is a bit much for me.

So right now, spud isn’t for us – its way above and beyond what we’re willing to afford. I buy meat and fruits/veggies from places within a 10 minute drive already (and often closer). That said, once I’m back at work and we have two full incomes, then it might be a possibility.

In other words, my cheapness frugality is overriding my love of convenience and being waited on hand and foot here. At least for now. 🙂

Oy. Vey.

Posted on: July 2, 2009

The good:

  • I had the foresight to arrange a grocery delivery today. It arrived.*
  • I managed to get in to see the chiropractor this morning.
  • I found a company open 24 hours that can come by and look at my garage door. They answered on the first ring at 7am today.
  • Today is fresh diaper delivery day

The bad:

  • The garage door wouldn’t close this morning; the motor just clicks.
  • I dropped Darren at the train and drove off before he could open the door to kiss the poptart goodbye. Bad Mommy.
  • I strained a muscle in my lower back yesterday.
  • It being fresh diaper delivery day, I put the poptart in a dispoable this morning.

The ugly:

  • I came back from dropping Darren at the train, pulled the car into the garage and switched the door to manual. Which means the door came down and
  • I had to lift the door to get the car out so I could get to the chiropractor with my aching back.
  • The poptart filled 5 diapers this morning.
  • A back strain takes about 6 weeks to heal properly.
  • $350 to replace the garage door motor.

Note to self: drink coffee before going to the train.

*More on that in a later post when I have 2 hands to type with.

July 2009


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