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Merry Christmas. We wish you joy and peace for the holiday season.

I wrote this yesterday when we were supposed to get 20 cm (8 inches) of snow. We didn’t and everything is all melty, but it still holds true. Suggest you take number 1 to heart since we have a bit of reprieve right now.

Dear Drivers,

It’s that most wonderful time of the year when Vancouver gets it’s annual snowfall. I expect this year won’t be as bad as last year, but the rules are the same:

1. Get some goddamn snow tires already

For real. Just because “Vancouver doesn’t get that much snow” if you’re going to insist on going out in your car, in the snow, GET SNOW TIRES. You’ve had a year to save up since LAST YEAR’S snowfall. Buy the damn tires and another set of rims, keep them mounted and have them switched out every Thanksgiving and Valentines Day (or Easter if you tend to go on long drives to the interior).

2. If you park your car outside clear ALL of the snow off the windows, headlights, turn signals and the taillights before you get going

The windows are there so you can see when you drive. If there’s snow covering the windows, you can’t see. Duh.

Also, once you start moving, the snow falls off onto the (hopefully) cleared roads and messes them up, and flies onto the windshield of the car behind you. Really, really annoying. This morning, I drove Darren to the train, and the minivan in front of me had only cleared the windshield. With the wipers. The headlights were on but the taillights weren’t cleared off. I couldn’t tell if the driver was using signals when he/she turned because those were also covered. If it hadn’t been for the streetlights, I wouldn’t have been able to see the back of the car. With that in mind…

3. If you need to clear the white stuff off your car, give yourself extra time.

Get up 15 minutes earlier, assess and get your car ready. Better yet…

4. Take public transit or walk. Or both

I’m not even going to bother elaborating on this.

5. Stay calm and take your time


Before we start on our snowy way back to Vancouver and as I’m drinking my coffee at the inlaws, before anyone else gets up, Linda has a few questions. I’ve always meant to participate in this questionnaire, but never took the time. Of course, now I know how to make a draft of an entry and come back to it later so this might be easier. Anyways, here are the questions and my answers (in italics):

 1. What did you do in 2008 that you’d never done before?

Um. Went to Chicago. Discovered Filene’s Basement. Oh, and yeah, got knocked up.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I don’t generally make resolutions, except to be a little kinder and a little gentler with those around me. I think I did okay. This year, I plan to not be too hard on myself and to make time for myself once my baby arrives.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?


4. Did anyone close to you die?

I think after having my cat for 20 years, she counts.

5. What countries did you visit?


6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008?

A waistline. No, seriously. But that’ll have to wait til summer.

7. What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

Well, November 4. Duh.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I would have to say getting knocked up.

9. What was your biggest failure?

Nothing really comes to mind. I’m pretty happy with my experiences this year.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Just the vile cold I had shortly before Christmas.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

Hm. Probably the painters for the house.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?


13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?

Oh its the holidays. Goodwill towards men and women and all that. 🙂 Besides, I’m a firm believer that this could return to bite me in the ass.

14. Where did most of your money go?

Bills, I believe. And computer equipment.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

This child.

16. What song will always remind you of 2008?

“Right here, Right now” by Jesus Jones

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder? – happier
b) thinner or fatter? – fatter (but knocked up)
c) richer or poorer? – about the same.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?


19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Sitting on my ass.

20. How did you spend Christmas?

Parte the firste was at my parents’s place. Parte the seconde was at the inlaws.

21. Did you fall in love in 2008?

Yes. All over again with Darren.

22. What was your favorite TV program?

Um. Lost. Or Heroes (which is kind of jumping the shark, but still)

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?


24. What was the best book you read?

Hm. Good question.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?

The new AC/DC – what I can I say? I am old school.

26. What did you want and get?

A baby (yes, it was mostly throwing caution to the wind, but still)

27. What did you want and not get?

A promotion.

28. What was your favorite film of this year?


29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I was 32. I think I was sick but was taken out to dinner later.

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Being gentler with myself.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008?

Getting clothes that fit properly.

32. What kept you sane?

Besides wine? Meditation, I think.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

I don’t think I did. They’re just people.

34. What political issue stirred you the most?

The Prime Minister Proroguing Parliament (say that 5 times fast)

35. Who did you miss?

My mommy. Seriously, in tears at one point.

36. Who was the best new person you met?

The crazy guys at Pippin’s in Chicago. They were hilarious.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008.

That in 15 days, [insert issue of choice] probably won’t matter.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

Right here, right now, there is no other place I want to be – “Right here, right now” by Jesus Jones

I just got  back from the Farmer’s Market that’s held every Saturday from May to October here. The end of July is usually a good time to go – crops are at their best around here, despite the cool-ish weather we’ve been having.

Today I picked up this bag of stuff:

Bag of goodies


Shall we see what’s inside?

(yes, yes, I know. There’s a mysterious paper bag in there – but I left one of my reusable produce bags in the fridge)

Raspberries: Local. Spray-free. Mmm.

I also got one of these cases of raspberries:

Hey, I just noticed that the box labelled “Fresh BC Berries is reflected in the window. Cool.

(Note to self: must learn how to use photoshop and deal with varying brightnesses. Or just learn to use the bazillion and three settings on my camera).

 Before moving onto the bag, lets get up close and personal with the berries:


Up close and personal with the raspberries. I think they might be embarazzed 🙂


So, back to the bag of bounty.

First I went to the Egg Lady and got some carrots and radishes. The radishes are big and plump, the carrots are a bright orange with long, leafy greens attached. They are also plump.


Plump radishes

I don’t have a picture of the carrots. They will be eaten soon. Or the potatos I got too. They will be mashed up for Shepherd’s Pie shortly.

Pattypan Squash

Pattypan Squash

Next door to the Egg Lady was another stand with pattypan squash. I grabbed a couple because I want to try this recipe from Robyn. I wonder if it can be done on the bbq instead? 


And the brown paper bag from above? That has campari tomatoes. On the vine.

There were numerous other yummy things there – beets and sweet onions and fresh garlic and artisan stuff too, from bread to handbags – all locally made.

So if you haven’t been this season, visit your local farmer’s market.

Edited to add: this post took a left turn on me.  Apologies if it rambles.

Aspeth is back! And you should read her post here.

When I recreated this blog after getting hacked, there was part of it I didn’t post. A very important part of my story.

Back in 2001,  I was sort-of-in-denial-dating Marty. Marty had been my first boyfriend about 10 years earlier, and we’d always been friends. Both of us had gone through rather bad breakups and found comfort in each other. He was my best friend, who knew me better than anyone else. Shortly after we got back together, he said to me, “You smell the same as you did 10 years ago” (and he didn’t mean a lack of deoderant – he associated people with smells).

Christmas 2001 was a bit mixed up. My parents came down and left on Boxing Day. I went shopping. Marty and I had planned to get together on New Years eve and do a Christmas/New Years celebration. We made the plans on December 26th. He was moving and told me he had given his barbeque away. I asked if he was okay and if he wanted me to come over. He declined.

That was the same day I found out a friend’s mother had passed away after a battle with cancer. The remembrance service was to be on December 28th at a funeral parlour next door to where I lived.

On December 28th I cleaned the house top to bottom, went grocery shopping and then next door to the funeral parlour where I attended the service. I remember Katie (who is a vegetarian) saying to me, “I touched MEAT to make these sandwiches.”

I went home after, flipped on the TV and poured myself a drink. A bit later, the phone rang. It was Marty’s mom. “Have you seen my son?” she asked.

Well, no, I hadn’t. And I wondered how she’d gotten my phone number. Apparently, she’d phoned my parents in the Cariboo and asked how to get in contact with me.

I tried to reassure her – saying Marty does this sometimes: he goes away and then comes back a day or two later and tells us about his travels. But something didn’t sit right.

I phoned his roommate, Dan, who was trying to pack up Marty’s waterbed. Marty had been in the midst of moving. I offered to go over to help – Dan declined as he’d just gotten the waterbed draining. Really, I was looking for some sort of contact with him.

The next morning my mom called to make sure I was okay. The fact she thought something was wrong was enough to set me off.

Sunshine called – she was in town from Japan and was returning a call I’d made asking if she’d heard from Marty. She hadn’t.

That afternoon, I called Maple Ridge RCMP and helped out with a missing persons report his mother had already filed.

That evening, I got a call from Marty’s mom saying they’d found his car at the Pitt Meadows Airport. My world shattered.

Sunshine came over on the 31st and dragged me out to New Years’ at the Wild Coyote. We left early and headed out early the next morning to the Pitt Meadows Airport. Dan came whizzing by in his car, pulled a screeching u-turn, leaped out and grabbed me. He told me we shouldn’t go wandering around the airport because they’re bringing out a dog later to look for him.

(Goddamn, this is still hard to write).

In the next 3 or 4 days, I lost 6 pounds. I suffered mood swings like you wouldn’t believe, I called in favours to people in various sectors. I took time off work. I raged and I cried. A lot.

To this day, Marty is still considered a missing person.

 I recovered. I moved along. Despite the fact I’m crying like a baby at the moment, I am happy. And I’d like to think that Marty would want me to be happy.

A couple of weeks ago, I came across an article on missing men in the Lower Mainland/Fraser Valley. I scanned it, but nothing jumped out at me. It was a bad memory – one I didn’t want to focus on.

I believe things happen for a reason. That when the Universe nudges you and you don’t respond, it begins screaming.

Aspeth’s post was the scream.

I sent her an email earlier today:

I have to say, about your friend, that really fucking sucks – because it does. I know when I’ve suffered loss the last thing I wanted anyone to say to me was “I’m sorry about…”; I just wanted them to agree with me that it sucks (and when I was being pitiful about it that it was unfair).

And that is why I didn’t post this before. I was tired of having to comfort when the grief was supposed to be my own. I tried to leave it behind. The whole thing sucked. I just wanted someone to come out and say that to me.

Yet, I believe there’s something in the Universe that prods us – whether you believe in God, Buddha, or the Wind in the Trees, it doesn’t matter. I think the Universe was trying to prod me with the “Missing” article. And I didn’t pay attention.

Today, I read Aspeth’s post on Loss. And then I did a google search for marty.

And I came across a Facebook group about him – with people I haven’t had contact with for years.

I deactivated my Facebook account awhile back for a reason based on principle.

Tonight, I reactivated it, for a reason based on faith.


Today is May 21. I have no idea when this post will actually be published. Over the weekend sometime, my blog was hacked and the database is gone. Last night, I was hanging out at the Momocrats’ live chat about the Kentucky (boo!) and Oregon (yay!) primaries, and mentioned my blog was hacked. John J. was in there and said this has been a recent problem with wordpress.

Note to other wordpress users out there: IF you are using WordPress 2.5, upgrade to 2.5.1 IMMEDIATELY. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. It’s a free upgrade – just do it.

(Do you think Nike will come after me for that now?)

Oh and one of my gmail accounts also got hacked. If you got an email from me about cheap electronics, please disregard and delete it. My apologies.

Yes, the passwords on both accounts were the same. Coincidence? Maybe, but maybe not.

Did I mention ALL of my posts are gone? I’ve been trying to retrieve them from Google’s cache, but its tedious and time-consuming. If anyone knows a quick and dirty way of doing this, please let me know.

But, enough about idiot hackers.

I’m using a new feature in Word 2007 to compose this – they actually have blog templates which you can upload later. So once the blog is back up, I’ll see if it actually works.

* * * * *

May 27

Today, I got an email from Katie  asking me where the blog is. So I thought I should get off my duff and get this thing set up. Its now set up on WordPress’ free hosting whatsit. I wrote the above in Word on the 21st, published it directly from there and OMFG it worked! Hopefully at some point, I’ll get the archives back up. So for those of you in using readers, you may see a whole bunch of posts all at once.

And it seems to work – well, mostly. I like it anyways. It makes life much easier.

(Yay! Apparently 2006 and 2007 are in the wayback machine!)


Posted on: May 16, 2008


Or more accurately: Wii!

Zellers got a shipment of Wiis and they were on sale today. For Christmas my parents gave us some “mad money” to get whatever we wanted, so long as it was frivolous. I think a Wii falls into that category. So I trucked up to Zellers when they opened and the guy in front of me (with his two kids) told me that he’d been to another large mall yesterday, with 7 stores that advertised it and they were SOLD OUT WITHIN A COUPLE OF HOURS.

So if you want a Wii, get thee to a Zellers.

I bought the Wii, with Big Brain Academy, and an extra controller that came with 5 games.

So tonight Darren will be unpacking and installing the Wii on our main TV (yes, we have more than one).  It should be interesting, particularly as we plan to get the WiiFit when it becomes available here on the 21st.

I am hoping my parents will try it out when they get here tonight.

Agenda for today:

  1. Buy Wii
  2. Ogle Wii box
  3. Tidy
  4. Ogle Wii box some more
  5. Take bottles back
  6. Laundry
  7. Ogle Wii box. Wonder if I should try to hook it up myself.
  8. Look at back of TV that has 50 million inputs.
  9. Tidy up bathroom.
  10. Decide not to install Wii.
  11. Gaze forlornly at Wii box.
  12. Go for haircut at 1:30.
  13. Wonder when parents will arrive.
  14. Gaze eagerly at wii box.
  15. Contemplate buying a bbq too.

Agenda for tomorrow:

  1. Dad’s birthday
  2. Finish laundry
  3. Be lazy
  4. Play with Wii

Agenda for Sunday

  1. Go for Sunshine’s wedding at 11:30 to set up reception area
  2. Watch ceremony
  3. Go to bar supplied at reception
  4. Play with Wii


November 2020


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