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And because its been so long since I updated, and I know you’re all dying to know the minutiae of my life, you get a numbered list!

 Questions I have been asked post-partum (note: the Poptart will be 10 weeks on Sunday):

1. So when are you going to have another one?

Dude, let me get this one figured out at least somewhat. Also, remember that we are both only children and have no idea of sibling dynamics. We would be lost. In fact, when Darren said we should have two (this is years back), the first words out of my mouth were, “Are you crazy?”

This has not stopped anyone from asking, mind you.

2. So are you getting any sleep?

And this why we have no friends. I know I said awhile back that I don’t sleep more than 2 hours in a row but that’s done. I sleep between 6-8 hours each night. The Poptart sleeps between 6-8 hours each night. Sometimes, we’ll take Darren to the train in the morning and she’ll go back to sleep when we get back and I get a couple more hours.

3a. So how do you get her to sleep?

We cheat. Breastmilk digests quite easily; formula lasts longer in babies’ stomachs. During the day, she gets breastmilk; in the evening, she gets breastmilk, plus formula (however much she’ll take). I nurse her to sleep. The breast is always offered first and she switches easily between bottle, breast and pacifier.

3b. You’re using formula?

Yes, we are. Because I have a bit of a low-grade anxiety thing that’s exacerbated by lack of sleep. I need sleep in order to be a good mother and not a weeping, panicky mess. If she can do the period between midnight and 4am, I can do the rest.

There is a reason sleep deprivation is used as a torture device.

Plus, if I ever have to go away from her for a couple of days (or god forbid something happens to me), she’ll need to take formula (I have a stash of frozen milk, but not that much). Her system needs to know how to handle it.

4. So why haven’t your parents come to meet her yet?

Don’t get me wrong, they want to and they’re coming down today to visit for a few days.

Back when I found out I was pregnant, my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer. His 7 weeks of treatment ended last Friday.

So the Poptart is 9.5 weeks old; he had 7 weeks of treatment – you do the math and figure out the dates. Also, she was born on his birthday – so that’s a pretty good birthday present.

Other random stuff:

  • the Poptart weathered her 2 month vaccinations like a champ. Her photos at sears, not so much.
  • with respect to question 1, above, yes, we are preventing any ooopses from happening. Since I am breastfeeding, the only pill I can take is the minipill, whcih is REALLY, REALLY unforgiving. You have a 3 hour window each day where you can take it otherwise you might get pregnant. Forget that noise – I was bad about taking pills every day anyways. So I got the Mirena IUD. A bit of cramping when he put it in, some spotting and cramping for a day (nothing a couple of advil couldn’t take care of) and that’s it. Done. Don’t have to worry about it for 5 years. By then we should have made a decision on whether we want another one.
  • I got the IUD on the same day as she got her vaccinations. You can imagine how fun that evening was. She was clingy, I was crampy, etc.
  • I broke up with my diaper service. Its cheaper to order my own and just wash them. With one income cut in less than half* we just don’t need to spend the $66 every 2 weeks it was costing. And the diapers I ordered were on sale. They come from Victoria so they’re pretty local too.

And since the house is a mess, the baby is sleeping, and my parents are coming, I need to eat breakfast and clean.

*more on this later when I participate in Amber’s Carnival of Maternity Leave.

So cloth diapers. Am in lurve with them.

A couple of weeks ago, the Poptart outgrew the small diapers I had for her. So I called the service and arranged for larger diapers. The problem? That was a weekend and they only deliver on Thursday. Meh, I thought. A few days of disposables won’t hurt. Because I’m just not doing that much laundry.

So we put her in disposables and she got a rash. We tried vaseline, zinc-based creams, and lubed her up like you wouldn’t believe before diapering her and nothing. I even let her air out for a few hours one day on a pile of towels and a waterproof pad (and really, she’s a nudist and loves being nekkid). We switched brands. Nothing helped.

So when the diapers were delivered I put her back in cloth. Within about a day, the rash had just about cleared up.


(we still put her in a disposable at night, but that’s because they absorb better and she sleeps a bit longer)

At the same time, I’d started looking into diaper wipes. Apparently, most of the chemicals used on them are not baby safe. And they’re freaking expensive.

So I cut up some extra receiving blankets to about the size of commercial wipes and made a solution of water, baby wash and a couple of drops of tea tree oil and started using that. And her skin has never been better. In fact, I’m starting to think I should be using that solution on my nether regions.

My only problem is that the cut up receiving blankets shed after they’re washed because the edges fray and I don’t sew. If anyone wants to hem them for me, there’s a bottle of wine in it for you 🙂

Also there is still time to sign the cloth diaper petition! If you want a copy I have a pdf and you can email me at rtissues (at) gmail (dot) com for a copy.

So remember when I wrote this?

Specifically, this sentence:

Where’s my tax credit for doing what I can? Where are my chits for locally grown meats and vegetables? Why not start there where its something more tangible?

Well, there’s an opportunity now. My diaper service has a petition in the Canadian House of Commons to ask for a tax credit for those that use cloth diapers and/or use a diaper service, and to increase taxes on disposable diapers. I have a copy of the petition to sign and I’m asking for your help.

Simply put, the more signatures that are collected, the better the chance at having a tax credit implemented.

So here’s the deal: if you want to sign and you’re in the metro Vancouver/west Fraser Valley area (up to Chilliwack), I’ll meet you. We can have lunch, coffee, whatever and you can meet the poptart. I mean, with this much cuteness, how can you say no?

oh baby baby

You can leave a comment or email me at rtissues (at) gmail (dot) com.

If you’re not in the metro Vancouver Area, and you’d like to sign, you can contact the Happy Nappy Service in your area and see if you can sign.

Update: If you’re not local and have no access to Happy Nappy, or even if you are local and want to take it around to your friends/family/cloth diapering aficionados, I have a PDF of the petition. Leave a comment if you would like it sent to you. Note, the original needs to be sent back to Happy Nappy in Langley by July 31.

Cross-posted at Wet Coast Women

July 2020


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